Mindset

Great things never came from comfort zones

Man I can relate to this quote on so many levels! Anyone else who can? Leave me a comment!

Due to my job as an office management assistant where I also work as a receptionist who has to be present ALL THE TIME and who also does a shit ton of other work at that job I am forced to step out of my comfort zone on a daily basis. On some days it is easier than on other days. With my social anxiety I get nervous around people who I don’t know. Unknown situations stress me out, that’s why at the end of the day I feel drained most of the times.

As I have mentioned a numerous of times before, my plan for the end of this year is to fully start my self-employment journey, leaving me enough room to gain more experience that I will have gained by the end of this year. Leaving the corporate world with six years of experiences in different fields. While I am learning everything about how to deal with customers, how to manage an office, how to write an invoice, how to write a business letter or how to be organized I haven’t actively started learning things about myself, my path that I want to follow, my services that I enjoy doing and that I want to offer, my comfort zones, my struggles, my fears and how to cope with my fears until last November.

And this is probably a crucial step towards my self-employment journey. Because really I am the only one who is in her own way to greater things. I know I have what it takes, I know I do good work, I know I take good pictures. I’d love to be more present but at the same time I get anxious. I’d love to network offline but at the same time it scares the living hell out of me.

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 So I want to share eight ways on how you can learn to leave your comfort zone(s):

➊ Stop negative self-talk. You wouldn’t discourage a friend either, would you?

➋ Accept your fear but learn that it does not define you or the situation you are in.

➌ Write down the things you wouldn’t have if you let fear rule over your life

➍ Write down what you imagine beyond your fear. (Is it a different lifestyle? Freedom? A happier life?)

➎ Look in the mirror, smile, dance, sing and tell yourself “you got this”. Do whatever you can do to release those endorphins.

➏ Do small activities to challenge yourself – ideally these are activities that you purposely ignored in the past. This might be difficult at first but it will get easier. I promise.

➐ Rate your fear from 1-10 before you encounter an activity and rate it again after the activity. I can guarantee you that you will rate your fear in the first round much higher than it actually turned out.

➑Analyze your fear.

Did situation xyz really turned out to be as scary as you imagined it in the first place?

 

And one more important thing: It is okay to ask for help!

You can apply these tips regardless of whether you want to start your own business or not. They can be helpful either way.

What do you do against fear? How do you work on leaving your comfort zones? Let me know, xo Chantal ♥


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Your only limit is your mind

➵𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒐𝒏𝒍𝒚 𝒍𝒊𝒎𝒊𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅. ✨⁣

You are the one who gets to chose whether you let your fear control your life or whether you take the chance and step out of your comfort zone.⁣

Personally, when it comes to photography or even this whole business thing, I am forcing myself to step out of my comfort zone each time.⁣

It is difficult to me to meet with strangers and to take photos of them. I always have so many ideas that I want to implement. But right before a photoshoot I always think that the results won't be good, that I mess up and that both, the person that I am shooting with and I invested our time for nothing. Usually, that is when a lot of self-doubt will creep up on me and usually that is when I come to the point of not implementing any of my ideas.⁣

When I asked for advice in the @buildandbloom facebook group (unpaid ad) I received a lot of encouraging but also inspirational words that really helped me change my mindset 💗⁣
I feel like the many advices I received don't just apply to my photography but also to my business as a creative virtual assistant. ⁣

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So the next time you are limiting yourself, try and think of the things that you will miss out on if you let your fear control your life. These things can be:⁣

➵ opportunities for you to grow and network⁣
➵ you will never be able to move forward⁣
➵ you won't have beautiful pictures⁣
➵ you will always stay within your safe bubble⁣
➵ you will not live the life you are (secretly) dreaming of⁣
➵ you will always feel jealously towards others who live your dream⁣


PS: Deep inside YOU KNOW, you have what it takes. Now embrace it! If I can do it, so can you.

💗 xo, Chantal⁣


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If a door won't open, it's not your door.

With that being said: I am grateful for everything that didn't work out in the past while I used to think that it would. I am also accepting the fact that some doors will not open in the future and that is completely okay. 🙆🏽⁣

But what I am also saying with this is that I learned not to slam a door open. When it's closed, I keep it closed because obviously whatever is behind that door is not meant to bring me any further in my life. Coming to this conclusion brings me a lot of contentment and makes me feel relaxed instead of anxious and nervous ↫ two feelings I would always strongly feel in these type of situations.⁣

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What I also like about this metaphor is that you can also imagine a room where you place things, people, (negative) thoughts, experiences which you always wanted to put to an end, you then grab your imaginary key 🗝️, lock the door and throw the damn key away!

I think it's a great way to let go of things that no longer bring you any purpose in life.

What do you think? How do you deal with these type of situations? Let me know, xo Chantal!💗⁣


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Create

"𝑪𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒍𝒘𝒂𝒚𝒔 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆."

I have heard this quote a couple of times now.
I've decided that if I want the life that I have been dreaming of for so long, I have to be the one working for it. You can't think and hope that one day things will get better if you don't work for it.
It took me a while to figure that out. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Now I don't know, about you but in the past, I spent a lot of time endlessly scrolling through IG, envying those who

🙆🏽‍♀️get to travel to all the places they want,
🙆🏽‍♀️live their lives on their OWN terms,
🙆🏽simply LIVE THEIR lives.

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𝑫𝒐𝒆𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒔𝒐𝒖𝒏𝒅 𝒇𝒂𝒎𝒊𝒍𝒊𝒂𝒓?

If yes, you should:

✏️𝒄𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒂 𝒗𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒃𝒐𝒂𝒓𝒅 - you can be as creative as you want. The goal by the end of this is to have something you can look at to remind yourself why you want this.

✏️𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒉𝒂𝒃𝒊𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒅𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒎 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆- e.g. I do this by telling other people that I want to quit my 9-5 by the end of this year. By repeatedly saying this you'll automatically manifest your goal!

✏️𝒋𝒖𝒎𝒑 𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒛𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒔 - it might make you feel uncomfortable or even scared but you will grow and you will learn and you will come out stronger.

✏️𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒊𝒆𝒗𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 - this might be one of the biggest challenges, in my opinion. TBH, I have a hard time believing in myself and in what I do but I am working that cecause the number one person who should believe in yourself is....yourself! Others won't do that for you.

✏️𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒂 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒑 𝒐𝒇 𝒇𝒂𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒋𝒖𝒔𝒕 𝒈𝒐 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒊𝒕! 💃💗

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Make this the last year you say next year!

In the past there were numerous of times where I kept telling myself that this year I'll stop doing this & that. In my specific case it's usually been about what my parents told me to do because I believe they thought that life was all about that.

Things like:

  • "𝑶𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒍𝒍𝒆𝒈𝒆 𝒅𝒆𝒈𝒓𝒆𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒈𝒐 𝒐𝒏 𝒂𝒔 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒚 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒗𝒆𝒍𝒔 𝒂𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕."

  • "𝑶𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒔𝒄𝒉𝒐𝒐𝒍, 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒍𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅."

  • "𝑶𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒆𝒕𝒕𝒍𝒆𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒋𝒐𝒃 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒆𝒏𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒎𝒐𝒏𝒆𝒚 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒅𝒐 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒅𝒐."

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I am not saying that not having a college degree doesn't bring you any further, & not having any money on the side isn't the smartest idea but what I am saying is that in that present moment that you are in,

➼ if you feel like

➼ going backpacking through australia right now,

➼ taking time off work,

➼ quitting that one particular job because it's not good for your mental health,

➼ not getting a college degree because you have a hard time following through,

➼ this is the moment where you want to start your business journey,

then I think that you should just go for it.


𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅𝒏'𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒊𝒕 𝒖𝒏𝒕𝒊𝒍 𝒏𝒆𝒙𝒕 𝒚𝒆𝒂𝒓.

Heck you don't even know what tomorrow will be like. So who says that next year everything is going to be so much better? Or next year you will finally be able to do all the travels you wanted when all the hard work you have to do is RIGHT NOW.

NOW is when you have to put in the work to be able to say that this is the last year you say next year. Because let's face it. Otherwise "next year" is never going to happen. It all starts within you.

And besides that:

𝑰𝒇 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒐𝒓 𝒄𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒆𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒐𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒍𝒍 𝒐𝒑𝒆𝒏.

Meaning that there will always, always, always be opportunities to work things out one way or another!

So, how many times have 𝘆𝗼𝘂 told yourself that this year will be the last year you said next year?!

-xo, Chantal


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2 simple tips how to change your negative mindset

"𝑮𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 𝒉𝒂𝒑𝒑𝒆𝒏 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒆 𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓𝒚 𝒅𝒂𝒚." ⁣⁣

I am the type of person who usually gets too caught up in a negative type of mindset. *I plead guilty*

⁣⁣These are some of the phrases that I would usually say:⁣⁣

☁ Why is this happening to ME??

☁ What a shitty day!!

☁ This sucks!!!⁣

☁ Can this get any worse??!⁣

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What I didn't realize until recently is that while I spent 𝒚𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 & 𝒚𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒔 focusing on this type of mindset I was creating a shitty life.

⁣⁣So what I've learned is, in order to live a happy life & in order to work on my mental health I have to switch off my negative mindset & focus on the good things that happen to me throughout a day.

⁣⁣Of course we are all going to have shitty days but what's important is how we deal with shitty days.⁣⁣

We can either choose to pity us & have that shitty day that we 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒗𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒆 ourselves we are having.⁣⁣

OR⁣⁣

We can accept in that moment, that this very moment isn't how we have pictured it but at the end of the day it was still a good day 𝒓𝒆𝒎𝒊𝒏𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒗𝒆𝒔 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒈𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔 that have happend to us throughout that day.♥⁣⁣

I have been working on this for a while & what I usually do is I ask myself whether this will still bother me five years from now. If it won't, then I learned to let go of it.

⁣⁣A new method I recently learned is to take a moment at the end of the day to 𝒘𝒓𝒊𝒕𝒆 𝒅𝒐𝒘𝒏 all the good things that have happened to me that day.⁣⁣ So that when I have a shitty day or when I feel like my mental health is shifting into the wrong direction I can just take out my notebook & remind myself of the good.⁣⁣⁣

What do you usually do on a shitty day? - Chantal⁣⁣


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Learning to trust yourself in your business journey.

Trust - "Think for yourself. Trust your own intuition. Another's mind isn't walking your journey, you are."⁣

Sometimes that's all we really have to do. To just trust ourselves. ⁣

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𝑻𝒓𝒖𝒔𝒕, 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒅𝒐 𝒕𝒐𝒅𝒂𝒚⁣

➸ will bring us forward.⁣
➸ will change our lives.⁣
➸ will bring better days.⁣
➸ will help us reach our goal in the long run.⁣
➸ will make life easier for us.⁣
➸ will bring us happiness.⁣

Most of the time we get so caught up in our negative thinking, that we don't see what really matters. And while we are so caught up we get discouraged. We mistrust ourselves and go back to our old habits because it's more comfortable to stay that way.⁣

Having trust in myself is something I am still learning. I feel like it's part of growing mentally but I also feel like this is what every business owner goes through? Or is it just me? - Chantal


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Be the girl who decided to go for it!

Something I am still learning is that if I really want to chase my dream I have to stop listening to what other people say - especially if they talk negative about my dream. Just because they talk negative about it, doesn't mean I am not allowed to follow my dream or that my dream doesn't make any sense and that I should stick to a normal 9-5 instead.⁣

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In the process of my self-employment journey as to what it is, - 𝒂 𝒋𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒏𝒆𝒚 - I am slowly learning that no ones opinion matters besides my own.⁣

➸ Opinions that don't bring me any value 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓.⁣
➸ Opinions from people who don't understand my passion, my drive, 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓.⁣
➸ Opinions from people that have a negative mindset 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓.⁣
➸ Opinions from small minded people 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓.⁣
➸ Opinions from people who aren't in my shoes 𝒅𝒐𝒏'𝒕 𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒆𝒓.⁣

👉🏼Pro tip: this can be applied to any situation and is also a great way to work on your self awareness 👌🏼⁣

The only opinion that matters in this journey of self-employment is my own unless there are actually people that I can truly learn from.⁣ - Chantal


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The key to success

“They key to success is to start before you are ready.”⁣⁣

I used to think that one day there will be this ONE perfect day where I will have everything set up and then I will be ready to go.⁣⁣ On this specific day I would have made enough experience in the "real world", I would have saved up a lot of money and most likely this would have taken me years before I could pursue my dream by then.⁣⁣

And while I think you should have a backup plan, or at least some money on the side that you can live off for a while once you quit your job, this one specific day won't just magically appear out of the blue. You will never be completely ready, to be honest.⁣⁣

Actually, if you continue to wait for years and years because people tell you so BECAUSE they don't know any better unless they know what they are talking about, you will miss out on so many great opportunities.

And chances are that you won't go after your dreams after all because you simply accepted the fact that you will never become your own boss and you will convince yourself that your current situation is just fine.⁣⁣

But why would you want to put your dreams on hold years after years?
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Why would you want to continue living a life that others want you to live?

Why would you want to put your happiness as the last point on your list of priorities?

I mean I get it. Maybe there are circumstances where you have to put it on hold, where you can't pursue your dream...at least not just yet.⁣⁣

BUT if there is nothing that serious that is holding you back, then why not at least TRY to go after your dreams?⁣⁣

I mean if all fails, you can always go back to what you used to do.

You have nothing to lose.

But at least you had the courage to try. You will always be one step ahead of the ones that never tried these things.⁣⁣If you never try, you never know. And if you never know, years..or decades from now..you start to wonder what could have happened if you actually listend to YOURSELF and YOURSELF only and have pursued your dreams, living the life you always wanted to live. -xo, Chantal ⁣⁣


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Why your close ones don't believe in your dreams.

The truth about your loved ones.

Let's talk about the people who you THOUGHT they would believe in your dreams just as much as you do.

⁣⁣Let's imagine these two scenes right here:⁣⁣

Scene 1:⁣

You are pretty convinced by your business idea and you are already hustling hard for it. You are excited, you wanna share it with the world and just tell everyone around you how proud you are of your business /business idea.⁣⁣

Scene 2:⁣

You talk to your loved ones..can be your parents, close friends, your s/o...whoever is dear to you, and you drop the "I want to quit my job and become my own boss" bomb.

⁣⁣Ideally this is what happens:⁣

They are just as excited as you are, they are proud of you and encourage you to go after your dreams and will support you no matter what.

9 out of 10, this is not going to be their reaction.

⁣⁣But let's face it:⁣⁣

Instead they are shocked; wondering why the hell you would want to do that and maybe "you should try it some other time", telling you that your business idea is complete BS. And that you will have a lot more financial stability when you stay in your corporate job, or whatever that is that you do.⁣⁣

This can be pretty hurtful. And if you are a sensitive type of person (like me, btw. Where are my sensitive girls at?! ), you will start to convince yourself that yes "they are right. It is a dumb idea. Maybe I should just wait. Maybe I should stay in the corporate world."

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HOWEVER, the reality is that they are NOT right and that you really shouldn’t give a f*ck about it.⁣⁣

They don't know any better, because they don't have the drive that you do. They don't have the courage that you have. They feel secure in THEIR corporate job, with their 9-5, five or sometimes even six days a week. They are perfectly fine in their own bubble. They probably don't even have the guts that you have.⁣⁣

So all I can say is:⁣

Don't listen to them.

Don't even argue with them. Just do your thing and once they see that you succeed they will change their mind.⁣⁣

-xo, Chantal


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